Brain games seeing is believing online dating
He is doing and saying all the right things with respect to his recovery, but I do not trust him.Something in my gut is telling me it is worse than what he has admitted to so far.I believe he did so because he did not realize I had the phone records for the year because I did not go into a lot of detail about what I found.It took a couple days for him to realize I was very serious about my discoveries, and he has since been extremely remorseful, has gone to see a sex therapist and is going to his first 12 step meeting tomorrow night.So when the following month’s phone bill came and he again pulled the detail, I put on my private investigators hat and began digging.I pulled cell phone bills for the prior year and found a large amount of phone calls to 1.800 sex/chat lines. I then found web history of looking at ads on craigs list as well as various phone calls and text to random cell numbers.That higher sex drive translates, among other things, into being more direct with men.The more mature women may be interested in dating a younger guy out of sheer curiosity of what it feels like dating someone younger, and also because usually younger guys are more “agile,” active, energetic.
And of course, it’s not a secret that women in their thirties and forties have a much higher sex driver than the ones in their twenties.
I still see my therapist, but need to talk to women who have been through this and find out how they cope. The hardest part for me is giving up on the fantasy life I thought we had, all the while knowing deep down we didn’t.
With my past sexual abuse, and his sex addiction (i’ve always known he masturbates a lot) our sex life has never been healthy, and with the baggage of that, my drinking and the new revelations I don’t think I have the energy, the want, the desire to try and work this out. Maybe we will end up stronger with better communication, a deeper relationship, but after reading your site and others, it seems recovery is not very prevalent, and I truly don’t know if I can get past this.
For background, I am a recovering alcoholic, have been sober almost 2 years.
To say I was a good wife prior to my sobriety would be a lie, I was not in so many ways.